Many who have dyslxia are trapped in their past

Many who have dyslexia are trapped in their past, things said or done...
From DyslexiaMyLife.org

 The problems of people's pasts impact them in one of two ways: They either experience a breakdown or a breakthrough. The following characteristics are indicators that you may be struggling with past difficulties.

1. Comparison. Do you constantly compare yourself to others and their performance? If you do, it's a sign you are living by other people's standards and not your own.

2 Rationalization. Another characteristic of people trapped by their past is rationalization: believing that there is a good reason not to get over past difficulties. Rationalization creates a fog that hinders people from finding solutions to their problems.  Excuses, no matter how strong, never lead to achievement.

3. Isolation. Are you withdrawing from others? For many, it's like a natural reflex that kicks in for self-protection. When naturally outgoing people isolate themselves because of the past, they become especially miserable. 

4. Regret. A significant hindrance to living in the present is regret. It saps people's energy and leaves little, enabling them to do anything positive.

5. Bitterness. People who don't get beyond the problems or pain of the past eventually become bitter. It's the inevitable consequence of not processing old injuries or issues.

Breakthrough is the alternative to breakdown. According to Dick Biggs, a consultant to Fortune 500 companies, he claims that one of the best teachers of persistence is what he terms "life's critical turning points". He says that the average person can expect to experience 3-9 turning points or "significant changes" in their life. These transitions can be happy or unhappy experiences, such as the birth of a child, job loss and divorce, the death of a loved one, or health problems. Turning points provide perspective, with is the ability to view major changes within the larger framework of your lifetime, letting the healing powers of time prevail and add perspective. He says that by learning from life's turning points, you can grow to a deeper level in your career and in your life. 

Maxwell takes this idea further and suggests that if you've been badly hurt, that you need to acknowledge the pain and grieve the loss you have experienced. He also suggests forgiving the people involved- including yourself if needed. That this process is key to moving on and if you haven't done it, it can be a serious delay to your progress. 

An exercise Maxwell suggests making a list of all negative events or experiences that may be holding you back or "holding your future hostage." For each item on your list, you should follow this process:

1. Acknowledge the pain. Ask: How is this pain impacting me and my spiritual or professional progress? How is it manifesting itself in my decisions or inability to make decisions or engage?

2 Grieve the loss. Ask: How can you best let go? Can you actually let go, or is this so big that only our Father can help with the process? If so, you need to humbly admit it and ask for His help in helping you to grieve effectively and let go of the pain and issue.

3. Forgive the person. Ask: Who hurt you? Have you prayed for them by name? Have you been able to let go of your grievance? If not, being unable to forgive is a primary hindrance to the effectiveness of prayer.  It's so critical we are told not to let the sun go down on our anger. What are you angry about? Who does it relate to?

4. Forgive yourself. Ask: Have I been able to move past and let go of self-directed anger or anger turned inward? (which is evidenced by depression)

5. Determine to release the event and move on. 

 I don't know how many times you've heard the words "I love you" today. But the Lord wants to make sure you know that He's saying this right now to you, personally. He loves you.

 --- From DyslexiaMyLife.org